This Marriage Thing

Everyone I talk to nowadays, have only one topic to discuss with me, "MARRIAGE". I wonder if there are any questions left to ask still. Like all sort of questions I have encountered in the past few days, What you talked about? Why you said yes? How you will manage? How preparations are going? Have you started shopping? Are you really getting married? How you thought he is the one? How is the bonding? Is he possessive about you? Does he restrict you?  Have you two met?

Oh, God!! I am tired of telling the same tale to every important person in my life. And that's why I thought to take up this to my blog and answer a few important ones of these.

We, whether pampered by our parents or not, whether you are a male or a female, you will always be in doubt if it's the right age to marry or not. It's not that girls are more nervous or boys are not! Both are equally nervous. We can never be mentally prepared for marriage thing. Its very natural, there is nothing different.

Whether you should marry or not:

Pros that I can find is, you need not be emotionally dependent on yourself anymore. There is a person in your life who will do anything for your smile and to keep you happy and even you will do the same for that person. You have someone apart from your family and close friends with whom you are going to share your life details and will even keep that new person above everything (not all of a sudden, but it will happen gradually).

The only cons I found till now is that your life is not yours anymore. Someone else is also going to be affected by your decisions and whatever you do. You are not as free as you used to be. You cannot follow the attitude, "Meri Life, Meri Marzi".

I cannot say that its disadvantage, because, that person is meant to be your soulmate and I hope we know the meaning of soulmate and so these things simply come with marriage, not as cons but as complementary responsibilities. You will also be affected by their decisions and would like them to involve you in their decisions, so if they are expecting the same from you, is no big deal, I guess.

When you are not sure if you should say yes or not:

You simply don't have to think too much about it, you will get the vibes when you will meet in-person to him/her. Just follow your vibes and it will happen without any extra efforts. Some bonds are formed in the first meeting, while some take time. You can think of it like when you entered college life, were you able to make best friends on day one? Obviously not, you took your time to know people and then the friendship bond was formed. Not everyone is your best friend, and also no best friend is perfect. Similarly, you are not going to like everything about the person in just one meeting, you need to understand each other, accept the positives and ignore the negatives (if avoidable)

When a relationship is formed:

It's just that some girls are more tend to express their feelings and emotions as compared to boys and on the other hand, when a girl express her anxiety, her man feels like he should keep her girl calm and thus end up hiding it all. But trust me, both of them equally confused about everything and only try to console each other and themselves as well that everythings is gonna be all right. Things will automatically fall in their place and will go smoothly. You might even end up doing things, that you never liked in actual but will do to make that person feel special 😉

Keep smiling and believe in yourself 😊